9
October
2008
AIKIDO
Apa manfaat berlatih aikido?
1. Anda, baik perempuan maupun laki-laki, tua maupun muda, mampu menanggulangi ancaman fisik, dengan cara yang RILEX tanpa mengandalkan kekuatan otot.
2.Mental Anda terlatih menjadi rilex dalam menghadapi tantangan kehidupan sehari-hari. Dengan pikiran dan badan rilex, Anda lebih kreatif, maka Anda lebih mudah mengatasi masalah, sehingga Anda lebih mudah mencapai SUKSES
3.Di Dojo Pelangi Anda belajar MEDITASI, lalu menerapkan meditasi dalam latihan aikido. Dengan latihan aikido maka Anda dapat berada dalam keadaan meditatif, walaupun Anda menghadapi tekanan, baik di dalam dojo maupun dalam lapangan pekerjaan..
4.Di Dojo Pelangi Anda belajar menerima apa adanya semua yang Anda hadapi. Baik yang menyenangkan maupun yang tidak. Non resistance. Tetapi Anda tidak pasif. Menerima dulu, baru berbuat sesuatu untuk menanggulangi tantangan yang Anda hadapi, dengan ketegasan dan kelembutan, dengan kasih sayang.
5. Inti Aikido adalah KASIH SAYANG
Dojo Pelangi
www.suhirman-djirman.com 0817 149 566
Jl. Bina Marga 105, Baranang Siang Bogor. Samping ujung Tol Jagorawi
Pelatih Utama: Suhirman M.Sc, Ph.D.
Penulis buku: MANFAAT AIKIDO BAGI PEMBINAAN SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP, Gramedia
Posted: Aikido, Leadership, Meditation, creativity
7
October
2008
SUCCESSFUL LIFE
When I train leadership, my training theme is success, since success is the dream of all of us. I am sure that success is also your dream. Financial success, social and political success, and physical success. You might have achieved the majority, or may be all, of your dream. You might have had a nice wife, wonderful children, a comfortable house and car, and a respectable job. With those achievements, you might feel happy. Or your friend might think you are a happy person.
The question is: are you really happy? Does success guarantee your happiness. Does success guarantee that your mind is free from anxiety, free from fear?
I remember Bertrand Russel in his book The Conquest of Happiness he discussed how many successful people are actually not very happy. Even many of them live in misserable unhappiness.
After practicing and studying aikido and meditation for many years, I begin to realize how important to differentiate happiness from delight. This is in conjunction with a question: “What is your purpose of life?”
You might have some goals in your life similar to mine. My main goal used to be to get the highest degree in education. I was so sure that the highest education meant a good job and a happy life. And I do achieve the goal. I got two M.Scs and a Ph.D. What did I feel when I got my M.Scs and Ph.D ? Does those degrees guarantees my happiness?
Because of that degrees I got a job in The Indonesian Institute of Sciences, one of the most outstanding institutions in Indonesia. Does that job makes me happy? I have to answer the questions objectively. When I got those degrees, I did feel happy, but only for a few minutes. Like a short time of tide wave, up and back to normal. Quietness and emptiness followed.
I recall, the feeling of a short tide wave followed by quietness and emptiness is a common feeling following my successes in my life. Successes in education, in work, in sport games, in family life. Was that feeling we call a happiness? I thought it had been so.
Lesson from my life is that achievement does not guarantee happiness. Although life achievements influence our happiness. What follows achievements is delight. And delight is not the same as happiness. We got some delight when we achieve our targets or goals in our life. But the achievements do not guarantee our happiness.
Eckhard Tolle mentions that our focus of attention guarantees our happiness. I did not feel happy when I achieved my Ph.D and other targets because my mind flew to the future or the past, my mind did not focus on the present moment. Indeed this the teaching of my aikido and my meditation trainings. That it is so important to focus our mind to the present moment all the time.
If our purpose of life is to enjoy some delights, we do not need to focus our mind on the present moment. Our mind may wondering around to make some plans, to work out some organizing, controlling and practicing our plan. We concentrate our energy to achieve more, to grab more and more. But if our purpose of life is happiness, certainly we need to focus our mind to the present moment. We need to live in the present moment all the time. We pay attention to our breath all the time wherever we are, whatever we do, when we are eating, reading, writing, driving, we focus our attention to the present moment by paying attention to our breath and our inner body.
After learning and practicing Aikido and Meditation for years, I begin to understand that success does not only mean the achievement of our goals, but the attainment of happiness. Whilst the other way of life might guaratees some delights, but not happiness, only meditative life, which focus our attention to the present moment, all the time, guarantees happiness.
May every body be happy.
Posted: Aikido, Leadership, Meditation
30
May
2008
The Painter made a decition to finish two paintings in a week. The themes and details of those paintings had been in his mind already. But he kept postponing his painting one day his relaxed conition, his mind asked himself why laziness sometimes came and strangled his hands and legs when he was about to start painting. Why he chosed doing reading or laying in bed, day dreaming.
He understood that there was happiness within and beyond the painting process. He knows that the happiness got enough power to attract him to start painting. He understood that. But why for almost a week laziness had kept him from starting painting.
Then he was aware that laziness was not so bad as many people thought. People tend to appreciate deligence and despise laziness. But The Painter did not thing so. It is true that without deligence, laziness became the master of mind. And if that happens the evolution of human beings would ceas and they would vanish. But laziness is as important as deligence. If there had been no laziness, people would have tend to work too hard, so that they would have ruined their own bodies and minds.
The Painter accepted that laziness is natural, since every thing in this universe tend to be stand still, unless some force makes them move.
What he did was just prepare a canvas while accepting that laziness as natural. But at that moment he needed to break it before it became too much. By one step, preparing a canvas, his laziness did break up, and the road to painting activities was opened. That one step was so important that after that one step his painting activitiy was flowing naturally, and his heart started to taste the sweetness of happiness.
Posted: Leadership, Meditation, Painting, spirituality
25
May
2008
The Painter, How to Start a Day
The Painter understands that his way of starting the day is important for his success. Yet he needs to improve his awareness to implement the understanding.
Getting up at six oclock in the morning and straight starting to work seemed to be good. Straight to his painting without cleaning his body seemed to be efficient. Directly toward his work without praying and meditation seemed to be time saving.
When his mind was still and his body relaxed, his awareness suggested that those are not the case. It was important to start the day with proper steps, since a few first early morning steps determine the brightness of his heart, and so the productivity of his day.
Praying, meditation, exercise, cleaning his body are the foundation of his daily success, so that he needs to practice them as early and regularly as possible, prior to his painting business.
Posted: Leadership, Meditation, spirituality
24
May
2008
The Painter felt unhappy without understanding its reason. It had just slipped into his heart when he got up in the morning. The unhappiness hindred him from making any activities. When he started his day life by swimming, he felt that people in the swimming pool were so many that they interfered his swimming. His fungal inhabited google blurred his sight and made him go deeper into his unhappiness.
Back home from swimming, he wanted to start painting, start to express the ideas and pictures onto his canvas. But he had not found the book of elephant to study its anatomy, since the day before.
Although at last he found the book, his unhappiness is still dominating his heart. He took a nap for one and a half hours. He had his lunch. But sleeping and eating could not change his unhappiness.
He did not give up. He did not call his unhappiness negative or positive. He just accepted it. It was just like his dark paints in his painting. With his careful treatment it could accentuate a point of interest to produce beauty in his canvas life.
With that acceptance he was able to take a black pencil and a few pieces of paper, and started to make a few sketches for his coming painting. And the sketches gave him some happiness.
In the evening, he called his friends, just to have a chat. One of them was his aikido friend who had had just realized that he is a painter, and she ordered a large painting which depict paddy harvesting.
His acceptance of his feeling, his sketching activities , and his friend’s order of painting had made him back into his life focus and diffused his unhappiness.
Posted: Leadership, Meditation, Painting
